Do you hate it? Does your stomach knot up inside? Do you avoid it sometimes because you’re afraid your child will have a fit? Do you view it as a necessary evil?
We have to discipline our kids every day. So, it’s important to have the right mindset about discipline.
The secret to discipline is using POSITIVE means for disciplining your kids….
Using positive discipline methods that work makes a huge difference in your parenting.
You can feel good about disciplining your kids.
You’ll feel in control in a firm but loving and respectful way.
You’ll feel confident knowing you have tools that will work for years to come.
You can create an effective discipline plan and be consistent using it each and every time.
I know this because I use positive and effective discipline strategies myself every day as a mother of two and I’ve taught these skills successfully to 1000s of parents in the last 20 years.
So I want to give you a tool you can use so you’ll feel less stressed, less frustrated, less tired… and feel good about disciplining your kids.
There’s one step that all parents miss and this can make the difference to you feeling good about your discipline and consistently following through rather than being inconsistent and random in your discipline. Truly, I have never met a parent who has taken the step I’m about to share with you.
The secret is to develop a positive mindset about discipline or you’re not going to do it well.
Some parents equate discipline with punishing their child and feel like the child has to suffer in some way for the discipline to be effective.
Well, what parent deliberately wants to hurt their child emotionally or otherwise?
It feels horrible and if you feel horrible about your discipline, guess what? You’re not going to do it or you’re not going to follow through with what you said you’re doing to do!
Many parents take away things and may have just one go-to like taking away a cell phone, TV, or video games.
Many parents yell and they feel guilty and horrible after they yell.
Other parents overuse time outs. (The only time I recommend a time out is if a child has hit or hurt another child.)
So, if you think of discipline in a negative way and you feel bad about disciplining your kids, you’re not going to do it well.
So, let me share what will work.
The 1st step is to create a definition of discipline that you like so you have a road map to follow on a daily basis for years to come.
Have you and your spouse ever sat down and defined what “discipline” means to you so you’re on the same page? I’ve never met a couple that has talked about this yet, we discipline every day so wouldn’t it make sense to agree on what we’re doing together?
So let me share my favorite definition of discipline with you that I share with my clients.
Discipline – The word “discipline” comes from the root word, “disciple” which means “one who teaches.” When a misbehavior occurs, you then take a step back and ask yourself, “What do I want my child to learn from this?” Then, pick the best tool.
How does that feel? Do you like the thought of being a “teacher” instead of a “punisher?” I hope so. Let me know if you like the definition by sharing your thoughts at the end of this article. Try it out this week and let me know if you notice a shift in your parenting.
Also, if you’d like to learn 10 positive discipline strategies that work and create an effective discipline plan for your family, be sure to look at the “G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Program: 5 Steps to Get Your Kids to Listen the 1st Time, Create an Effective Discipline Plan that Works and Get Rid of Back Talk and Power Struggles in Your Family.
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